Category: MENTAL HEALTH

The Power of Truth & Honesty
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The Power of Truth & Honesty | Christine Spence

{4:06 minutes to read} Have you ever felt alone? Not because there is no one around, but rather because you feel no one knows the real you. Why is that? Because you’re not being honest with yourself and others. You’re not being truthful with those around you about what you feel, what you think, what you want or need. But, you are not alone!

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How Is Mediation Different From Therapy?
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How Is Mediation Different From Therapy? | Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read} Both mediators and therapists play important roles in helping couples who are experiencing difficulties in their marriage. When couples come to me for divorce mediation, I find that at least half of them have spent time, recently or in the past, working together with a therapist to try to save their marriage. I certainly view this as a positive sign. At least the couple has tried to work through the issues in their marriage, even if it didn’t ultimately work out.

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May 6: Local Motorcycles Ride For Autism
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May 6: Local Motorcycles Ride For Autism | Howard Raphaelson

For the past few years Raphaelson and Levine has been supporting a group of bikers riding for a good cause, Autism Awareness. Every year, the Chosen Souls New York Motorcycle Club organizes a charity motorcycle run and event, “1 Journey 2 Wheels.” The event, located in Lindenhurst, NY, raises money for autism awareness through a motorcycle run, after party and a raffle-style charity auction. Individuals in the club come from all walks of life, many of whom are members of the law enforcement community in New York. The common denominator of its members is their desire to help people and their love for motorcycles.

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Identifying With Others vs Blaming Them
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Identifying With Others vs Blaming Them | David Zerella

{2:42 minutes to read} There is a frequent overlap when teaching individuals about unconditional acceptance and providing assertiveness training. One of the ways they overlap is with the idea of identifying with others. By “identifying” I mean relating to or finding common ground with others. Identifying with others allows us to decrease internal frustrations, stress and resentment, as well as express ourselves with more assertiveness and less blaming.

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A Letter from China: International Collaboration with Mental Health and Divorce Professionals
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A Letter from China: International Collaboration with Mental Health and Divorce Professionals | Lauren Behrman

{Read in 3:30 minutes} Dear Colleagues: We’re sending this blog from Wuhan, China, where we are enjoying a few days of sightseeing and absorbing Chinese hospitality, history and culture from our wonderful colleagues and their graduate students.

Jeff is the current president of The Society for the Advancement of Psychotherapy,(SAP) Division 29 of the American Psychological Association (APA). The division has been working on increasing its international presence, and in 2016, SAP formalized an affiliation with Oriental Insight—a similar organization in China Normal University School of Psychology which was founded by Professor Jiang Guangrong, a leading psychologist at Central China. Professor Jiang is one of the leaders in the field of Counseling Psychotherapy and Mental Health on the Chinese mainland.

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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap
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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap | Jeff Zimmerman

{4 minutes to read} In any context, a mental health diagnosis is a serious, meaningful term that should not be taken lightly, and should only be made by a mental health professional who has personally assessed the client and is trained to diagnose the condition at hand. Although diagnoses are often casually offered colloquially as labels, careful assessment and expertise are truly required in order to make an official diagnosis.

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Prepare and Plan to Ensure that Children’s Special Events are Truly Special
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Prepare and Plan to Ensure that Children’s Special Events are Truly Special | Lauren Behrman

{Read in 3:30 minutes} Children’s special events deserve to be memorable and positive. Whether it’s a graduation, confirmation, bar or bat mitzvah, recital or play, children benefit from divorced parents who plan ahead to ensure that the event—and the memory of the event—will not be spoiled by parental conflict.

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Your Mental Health: Time for a Checkup?
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Your Mental Health: Time for a Checkup? | Danielle Bissett

{3:40 minutes to read} If you had a broken leg, would you ever not go to the doctor to get it examined? If your tooth cracks and you are in pain, would you ever not make an appointment to see the dentist? So, if you are struggling emotionally, why are you not looking for a psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist to help?

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What is Trauma? What is its Impact and How Do You Treat It?
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What is Trauma? What is its Impact and How Do You Treat It? | Brittany Starrantino

{3:30 minutes to read} People who come into the office saying they are experiencing anxiety and/or depression often have environmental traumas that have impacted them over time. Trauma can be anything perceived as “traumatic” to an individual. This could be the death of a pet or family member, an abusive relationship, a car accident, etc.

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Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child
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 Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child | Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read} In my next blog I will be discussing the various financial issues that affect the parents of a special needs child who are divorcing. Before doing that, however, I first need to describe the basic framework of governmental services and benefits that are provided to children and young adults with disabilities.

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Decision Making Anxiety
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Decision Making Anxiety | David Zerella

How to Decrease Outcome Based Thinking

{3:06 minutes to read} I have a small chalkboard in my office which I use to write motivational quips. I change it periodically, and most of my clients are familiar with it. It can be a great source of ideas within a session. Recently, I updated it to read, “There is no failure; we either succeed or we learn.” This idea summarizes my clinical approach on treating decision making anxiety.

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How to Mitigate the Non-Constructive Results of Confrontation: Tips for Professionals
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How to Mitigate the Non-Constructive Results of Confrontation: Tips for Professionals | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 2 minutes} Confrontation is often interpreted as an attack. In counseling scenarios, regardless of what the professional therapist or mediator is confronting (feelings, ideas, logic, etc.), the client’s response is generally to do one of three things: fight, flee, or freeze.

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Relax and Go On Vacation—The Work Will Wait for You!
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Relax and Go On Vacation—The Work Will Wait for You! | Don Sinkov

{2:42 minutes to read} Here I am, about to leave on a ten-day vacation abroad—something I haven’t done in a really long time. I’m experiencing some trepidation, but not just about taking a long flight. I tried to finish all the work I had, but that is nearly impossible since it comes in every day.

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Looking Up From the Screen
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Looking Up From the Screen | Vickie Adams

Look up from your phone…. I’m right over here! Don’t worry. This is not another article about cell phone dependence. It’s about this author and my observations and decision-making process. This New Year’s eve I found myself in a beautiful restaurant surrounded by beautiful people. I looked over to the bar packed with men in tuxedos and women in fabulous dresses waiting to be seated. For one crazy minute, almost frozen in time, I noticed that every one of them was looking down at their phone and not one single person was facing another human’s face.

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Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce
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Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 1:30 minutes} Often in divorce we feel that we’re very depleted—as if our emotional bank accounts are overdrawn.

Self-care in general is a relatively new concept in divorce, and it’s usually one of the last things that people pay attention to. It’s understandable, when you consider all of the changes that occur during the process.

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Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children
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Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children | Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  I just finished a mediation session with a divorcing couple who have a special needs child, in addition to two typically-developing children. While divorces involving special needs children are often complicated and involve more issues than the “normal” divorce, I find helping these families to be especially rewarding.

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Start With Yes
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Start With Yes | David Zerella

{3:30 minutes to read} Several years ago, I was on a cruise where The Second City Improv Group performed. As an avid fan of comedy, I thoroughly enjoyed the show but was even more thrilled to participate in an Improv 101 seminar they held the following day. The primary concept they taught us was “start with yes.”

“Start with yes” meant agreeing unconditionally; no matter how absurd the concept, outrageous the suggestion, or ridiculous your co-stars sound: always agree. This unconditional agreement in improv keeps the skit flowing; in conflict management, it keeps the conversation going in a healthy, productive way.

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OCD and Intrusive Thoughts
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OCD and Intrusive Thoughts | Brittany Starrantino

{5:06 minutes to read} Have you ever experienced obsessive thoughts and/or compulsions to act out rituals to relieve anxiety? Better yet, have you had a thought that was not truly yours but made you question yourself and why you had such a thought? You are not alone. The Diagnostic Manual 5, Grant (2013) defined Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) as persistent, chronic, recurrent thoughts and compulsions brought on by anxiety or environmental stress.

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Curated: 5 Blogs and Podcasts That Help Me Be a Better Lawyer and Mediator
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{3:56 minute to read} As a family law attorney and a mediator who is committed to helping my clients stay out of court and resolve their issues with as little animosity as possible, I’m very interested in studying positivity, resilience, and ways to build on people’s strengths. In addition to always having a book or two going on one of these topics, I subscribe to a number of podcasts and blogs that I can rely on to provide me with new ideas, inspiration, and tools to achieve the right mindset to be the best mediator and lawyer I can be.

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Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Tying Emotions to Situations to Actions to Coping
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Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Tying Emotions to Situations to Actions to Coping | Brittany Starrantino

{4:00 minutes to read} Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is similar to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) in that you are meeting with someone who is very defiant and stuck in their way of coping. The difference is that DBT is a softer approach. In the beginning, I have someone do a type of chart which may reveal that they:

  • Have a lot of anxiety;
  • Don’t understand what they’re feeling; or
  • Feel a lot of anger and can’t stop acting out on it.

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Harm Reduction: Addressing Behavior Realistically
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Harm Reduction: Addressing Behavior Realistically | Brittany Starrantino

{5:48 minutes to read} Harm Reduction. It sounds a little scary, doesn’t it? Actually, it is just a strategy to reduce negative consequences for someone. If an individual is involving themselves in high-risk behavior, like drug use or adolescent defiance, harm reduction is used to kind of reel that person in, but in a realistic way.

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Parenting for Transparency
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Parenting for Transparency | David Zerella

{3:00 minutes to read} I provide therapy for many teenagers and their families who are dealing with a wide array of diagnoses and clinical issues—from oppositional defiance to anxiety to familial challenges and transition. In my practice, I emphasize family attendance and participation in order to maximize transparency.

Transparency is developing an open, honest relationship between parents and children in which conflict is not avoided but discussed candidly. As with all of my work, unconditional self esteem is the cornerstone for successful transparency. Therefore, I help families to understand and remind each other that, although they may not like one another’s behavior, they can still accept (love) each other.

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Divorce: Know When to Hold ‘Em, Know When to Fold ‘Em
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Divorce: Know When to Hold ‘Em, Know When to Fold ‘Em | Rachel Alexander

{5:36 minutes to read} Recently, a young man, Dave*, called the office, reeling from the discovery of his wife’s infidelity and, even more so, from the lies she told to cover it up. As a divorce mediator and family law attorney, it’s not unusual to receive a call from someone experiencing painful emotions. This young man wanted to schedule an appointment as soon as possible and begin an action for divorce. Dave was shaken, triggered and emotionally hijacked. He was in crisis and aiming to push through it into action.  

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Children Becoming the Parents of Their Parents
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Children Becoming the Parents of Their Parents | Bob Bordett

When we were young we thought our parents were indestructible. They played with us in the yard and on the floor. They climbed ladders and would clean out the gutters every fall. As we grew older, we became more indestructible and watched as our parents became more cautious and careful. Then we started having our families and children (their grandchildren), and we started realizing we were not so indestructible either.

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