Category: MENTAL HEALTH

The Prophets of Profit: Uncovering Your Emotional Intelligence With Alexander Hamilton Dunlop
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The Prophets of Profit: Uncovering Your Emotional Intelligence With Alexander Hamilton Dunlop | Brian Califano

We were lucky to speak with perhaps our most enlightened guest to date, Alexander Hamilton Dunlop. Alexander is a Strategic Advisor, Guide and Life Coach who brings more than 20 years of professional coaching and consulting experience to his position as Founder and Director of the New York City-based Life Elevated.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Money
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Money | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: M is for Money

Definition: In divorce, the word money means “something of which there is not enough.” Based on my observations, the typical middle class family of four in eastern Massachusetts spends around $135,000 per year, after taxes, on a basic family budget:
  • Mortgage or Rent is about $30,000 per year;
  • Utilities and Heat are about $5,100 per year;

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Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving
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Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving | Rachel Alexander

{6:00 minutes to read} Don’t look now, but here comes Thanksgiving! When you are already in survival mode, a holiday can add insult to injury. If you are bracing for the holidays as a newly divorced family, maybe spending your first Thanksgiving without your kids or extended family, “celebrating” anything can seem absurd. Forced festivities can increase the sense of what’s missing and highlight not only what you are not grateful for, but what you’re actually pretty pissed off about.

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Negotiating a Prenuptial Agreement Doesn’t Have to Feel Like Hell
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The prenup was hell, but in the end it was almost as if that document became a repository for our anxieties, holding on to them so we didn’t have to.

~Abby Mims

The above quote comes from an article in The New York Times titled “Prenup Is a Four-Letter Word.” In the article, the author Abby Mims writes about her experience being asked to sign a prenuptial agreement. She and her fiancé had been together for a number of years and already had a child when they decided to marry — but the fiancé wanted a prenup.

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Men in Therapy: Man or Mouse?
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Men in Therapy: Man or Mouse? | Christine Spence

{3:54 minutes to read} Have you ever had a family member, friend, girlfriend/spouse tell you they think you need counseling? Did your response ever sound something like this:

“No way! I don’t need to talk to anyone. That’s for boys. I’m a man. I can handle my own problems. That’s for weak-minded people. I am strong. I don’t need anyone to tell me what to do. People that see a counselor are crazy…sick… I’m not crazy and I’m not sick.

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Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?
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Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation? | Rachel Alexander

{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting present, so how do we do it? Practice, practice, practice!  And, softly, softly, softly. One suggestion: set an alarm on your smartphone to sound a gentle tone several times during the day.  When you hear it, simply bring your awareness back to yourself and your body, perhaps offering yourself the gentle prompt: “How am I right now? How am I feeling just now? Where is that located in my body?”.....

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Hearing What Your Male Child/Adolescent is Trying to Say By “Acting Out”
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Hearing What Your Male Child/Adolescent is Trying to Say By “Acting Out” | Joe Conlon

{4:12 minutes to read} Is your male child or adolescent acting out? Do they have no interest in school?

A child or adolescent who appears to be oppositional or aggressive may actually be reacting to feelings of anxiety or depression that he may not be able to articulate effectively. He may not even fully understand what he is feeling.

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The Prophets of Profit: Living an Oola Life
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The Prophets of Profit: Living an Oola Life | Brian Califano

We had the pleasure to interview Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl, co-authors of the International Best Selling book, Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World. Dr. Dave (the Oola Seeker) and Dr. Troy (the Oola Guru) are renowned experts in a proper work/life balance. They travel the world, helping people find balance and growth in the “Seven Key Areas of Life,” better known as the “Seven F’s of Oola”: Fitness, Finance, Family, Field, Faith, Friends, and Fun. A better “you” makes a better family, a better community, and ultimately a better world.

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The Power of Truth & Honesty
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The Power of Truth & Honesty | Christine Spence

{4:06 minutes to read} Have you ever felt alone? Not because there is no one around, but rather because you feel no one knows the real you. Why is that? Because you’re not being honest with yourself and others. You’re not being truthful with those around you about what you feel, what you think, what you want or need. But, you are not alone!

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How Is Mediation Different From Therapy?
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How Is Mediation Different From Therapy? | Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read} Both mediators and therapists play important roles in helping couples who are experiencing difficulties in their marriage. When couples come to me for divorce mediation, I find that at least half of them have spent time, recently or in the past, working together with a therapist to try to save their marriage. I certainly view this as a positive sign. At least the couple has tried to work through the issues in their marriage, even if it didn’t ultimately work out.

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May 6: Local Motorcycles Ride For Autism
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May 6: Local Motorcycles Ride For Autism | Howard Raphaelson

For the past few years Raphaelson and Levine has been supporting a group of bikers riding for a good cause, Autism Awareness. Every year, the Chosen Souls New York Motorcycle Club organizes a charity motorcycle run and event, “1 Journey 2 Wheels.” The event, located in Lindenhurst, NY, raises money for autism awareness through a motorcycle run, after party and a raffle-style charity auction. Individuals in the club come from all walks of life, many of whom are members of the law enforcement community in New York. The common denominator of its members is their desire to help people and their love for motorcycles.

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Identifying With Others vs Blaming Them
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Identifying With Others vs Blaming Them | David Zerella

{2:42 minutes to read} There is a frequent overlap when teaching individuals about unconditional acceptance and providing assertiveness training. One of the ways they overlap is with the idea of identifying with others. By “identifying” I mean relating to or finding common ground with others. Identifying with others allows us to decrease internal frustrations, stress and resentment, as well as express ourselves with more assertiveness and less blaming.

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A Letter from China: International Collaboration with Mental Health and Divorce Professionals
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A Letter from China: International Collaboration with Mental Health and Divorce Professionals | Lauren Behrman

{Read in 3:30 minutes} Dear Colleagues: We’re sending this blog from Wuhan, China, where we are enjoying a few days of sightseeing and absorbing Chinese hospitality, history and culture from our wonderful colleagues and their graduate students.

Jeff is the current president of The Society for the Advancement of Psychotherapy,(SAP) Division 29 of the American Psychological Association (APA). The division has been working on increasing its international presence, and in 2016, SAP formalized an affiliation with Oriental Insight—a similar organization in China Normal University School of Psychology which was founded by Professor Jiang Guangrong, a leading psychologist at Central China. Professor Jiang is one of the leaders in the field of Counseling Psychotherapy and Mental Health on the Chinese mainland.

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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap
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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap | Jeff Zimmerman

{4 minutes to read} In any context, a mental health diagnosis is a serious, meaningful term that should not be taken lightly, and should only be made by a mental health professional who has personally assessed the client and is trained to diagnose the condition at hand. Although diagnoses are often casually offered colloquially as labels, careful assessment and expertise are truly required in order to make an official diagnosis.

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Prepare and Plan to Ensure that Children’s Special Events are Truly Special
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Prepare and Plan to Ensure that Children’s Special Events are Truly Special | Lauren Behrman

{Read in 3:30 minutes} Children’s special events deserve to be memorable and positive. Whether it’s a graduation, confirmation, bar or bat mitzvah, recital or play, children benefit from divorced parents who plan ahead to ensure that the event—and the memory of the event—will not be spoiled by parental conflict.

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Your Mental Health: Time for a Checkup?
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Your Mental Health: Time for a Checkup? | Danielle Bissett

{3:40 minutes to read} If you had a broken leg, would you ever not go to the doctor to get it examined? If your tooth cracks and you are in pain, would you ever not make an appointment to see the dentist? So, if you are struggling emotionally, why are you not looking for a psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist to help?

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What is Trauma? What is its Impact and How Do You Treat It?
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What is Trauma? What is its Impact and How Do You Treat It? | Brittany Starrantino

{3:30 minutes to read} People who come into the office saying they are experiencing anxiety and/or depression often have environmental traumas that have impacted them over time. Trauma can be anything perceived as “traumatic” to an individual. This could be the death of a pet or family member, an abusive relationship, a car accident, etc.

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Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child
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 Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child | Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read} In my next blog I will be discussing the various financial issues that affect the parents of a special needs child who are divorcing. Before doing that, however, I first need to describe the basic framework of governmental services and benefits that are provided to children and young adults with disabilities.

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