Category: MEDIATION

Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving
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Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving | Rachel Alexander

{6:00 minutes to read} Don’t look now, but here comes Thanksgiving! When you are already in survival mode, a holiday can add insult to injury. If you are bracing for the holidays as a newly divorced family, maybe spending your first Thanksgiving without your kids or extended family, “celebrating” anything can seem absurd. Forced festivities can increase the sense of what’s missing and highlight not only what you are not grateful for, but what you’re actually pretty pissed off about.

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What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting?
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What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting? | Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read} There are two basic concepts that describe the way in which parents raise their children following a divorce. These approaches are significantly different, and in fact, are at opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. One approach is referred to as Cooperative Parenting and the other as Parallel Parenting.

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Why Schedule a Mediation Consultation?
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Why Schedule a Mediation Consultation? | Ada Hasloecher

{3:30 minutes to read}  There is no doubt that mediation is a lot less costly than litigation in every way – financially, emotionally and time-wise. The three main reasons people choose mediation are:

  1. They want to do things as amicably as possible;
  2. They want to do what is in the best interest of their children; and
  3. They want to save money.

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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 4
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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 4 | Ada Hasloecher

{4:30 minutes to read} In the 3 previous parts of this series, we’ve identified 4 categories of divorcing couples without children (Part 1), covered couples married 1-3 years (Part 2), and couples married 3-10 years (Part 3). In Part 4, I am combining categories 3 & 4, as they have a tendency to overlap. Married for 10+ years with no children I would say at the outset that marriages over 10 years generally have a huge emotional component to them in addition to a more complex financial investment.

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What are the Foundational Requirements for Mediation?
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 What are the Foundational Requirements for Mediation? | Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read} When you take it down to the bare bones, there are really only two essential elements that must be present in order for a mediation to be viable and ultimately productive: Willingness to Dialogue and Full Disclosure. Willingness to Dialogue First, there needs to be a basic willingness to come together and talk to each other.

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5 Key Elements of the Mediation Process
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5 Key Elements of the Mediation Process | Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read} There are two principal aspects to the role a mediator plays when helping couples going through divorce mediation. One has to do with the process and the other has to do with the substance.

Process relates to the framework and ground rules that are established by the mediator so that the necessary conversations can take place and move along, ultimately to resolution.

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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 3
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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 3 | Ada Hasloecher

{4:30 minutes to read} Part 2 of this series was concerned with couples who have only been married for 1-3 years. In this part, we look at lengthier marriages, lasting 3-10 years. Married for 3-10 years: You may think that these couples are similar to couples who have been married for a short time but that is not generally the case.

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Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?
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Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation? | Rachel Alexander

{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting present, so how do we do it? Practice, practice, practice!  And, softly, softly, softly. One suggestion: set an alarm on your smartphone to sound a gentle tone several times during the day.  When you hear it, simply bring your awareness back to yourself and your body, perhaps offering yourself the gentle prompt: “How am I right now? How am I feeling just now? Where is that located in my body?”.....

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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 2
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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 2 | Ada Hasloecher

{4:24 minutes to read} In the next few articles, we will be exploring the different issues in a mediation between couples who do not have children and those who do. In the first article of this series, I parsed out the 4 general categories that these couples may fall into. In the next few articles. I’ll reiterate those categories and expand on each.

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What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 1
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 What About Us? Divorcing Couples Who Don’t Have Children – Part 1 | Ada Hasloecher

{3:12 minutes to read}  I recently received an email from a former client of mine who reached out to me asking the following question: “I was wondering if you could publish some articles about couples without children who would use mediation. I haven’t seen a lot of articles on mediation sites regarding couples without children who are looking to divorce. I have had several friends who don’t have children or have children that are grownups and no child support would be necessary should they divorce.”

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Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered
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Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered | Rachel Alexander

{5:06 minutes to read} Let’s lift the blind on blame. If blame had a whistle blower, what would he say?

BLAME – What is it really about? I get aggravated when a news story breaks and the first minutes concern themselves with who is to blame rather than what happened and what’s being done in response.

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Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi
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Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi | Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read}  Kintsugi is a centuries-old Japanese master craft for repairing broken pottery with lacquer mixed with powdered gold. If you’ve ever been to a museum exhibit of old Japanese ceramics, you may have noticed the patterns of gold veins that run through some of the pieces. These pieces had been broken at some point, and the gold clearly shows where the repairs had been made as the master craftsman put the piece back together again.

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Vacation? I Just Took a Trip Down Memory Lane!
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 Vacation? I Just Took a Trip Down Memory Lane! | Ada Hasloecher

{3:18 minutes to read} August is a big vacation month. The arc of the summer is waning; summer camp is ending. The kids are getting ready to go back to college, and the “back to school” commercials are blasting us already — rushing us to September. It’s a kind of a “now or never” chance to take that vacation/stay-cation, relax, and take a deep breath before autumn’s call to “back to everything….” begins.

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Happy to Announce…
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Happy to Announce…  |  Rachel Alexander

{3:12 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce that on June 22, 2017, I became of counsel to the firm Gruber, Colabella, Liuzza and Thompson. This is the culmination of a long relationship with the first named partners, Mark Gruber, Esq. and Chris Colabella, Esq., who have been my go-to people since I began in the field almost ten years ago.

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How is Mediation Like Solving a Puzzle?
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How is Mediation Like Solving a Puzzle? | Susan Ingram

{2:52 minutes to read} When I’m first meeting with couples in divorce mediation, I find most people have little knowledge as to how mediation actually works. The metaphor of putting together a jigsaw puzzle, an activity most people are familiar with, is very helpful in illustrating the process. Mediation typically takes much less time than litigating a divorce – often a matter of months as opposed to a year or more with a contested divorce. But that doesn’t mean mediators “cut corners” as we move through the process with our clients.

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How is Mediation Like a Jigsaw Puzzle or Launching a Ship?
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How is Mediation Like a Jigsaw Puzzle or Launching a Ship? | Ada Hasloecher

{3:54 minutes to read} During my initial consultation, when I meet a couple for the first time, I think it’s important to put some context to the mediation process before they decide whether mediation is appropriate for them. So in addition to describing the process, distinguishing mediation from litigation and laying out the general topics and issues we will be working on together, I often offer two analogies to illustrate a way of thinking about how we will be accomplishing our goals.

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They Came to Liberate, Not To Conquer
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They Came to Liberate, Not To Conquer | Ada Hasloecher

{3:54 minutes to read} You will likely be reading this after the July 4th holiday, but I wrote it right after the Memorial Day weekend. There is a synergy about the timing. During the Memorial Day weekend this year, as every year, there were lots and lots of movies and documentaries on TV extolling the virtues, triumphs, and tragedies of the wars that were fought to defend our and our allies’ freedoms throughout our history.

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How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce?
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 How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce? | Susan Ingram

{4:24 minutes to read} Not infrequently, when someone first calls me to discuss the possibility of divorce mediation, they will mention that they have not yet brought up the subject with their spouse. The caller (the initiating spouse) typically describes a marriage that has not been good for some time; the marriage no longer works for him or her and it needs to come to an end.

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All Quiet On The Western Front?
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All Quiet On The Western Front? | Ada Hasloecher

{3:48 minutes to read} The World War I masterpiece All Quiet on the Western Front by Erich Maria Remarque was not required reading when I was in high school. I was intrigued to tackle it recently as a result of a reference in another novel I recently finished. Oh my. I have not been able to shake its profound impact on me since reading it over a month ago.

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“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets – Part 2
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“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets – Part 2 by Rachel Alexander

{4:00 minutes to read} Just because we determine a value for something does not mean we divide it!Often spouses are concerned that the mere mention of an asset puts it on the auction block and forfeits their exclusive rights to it. Not so!

Getting a comprehensive picture and value of ALL assets is an important part of creating a solid settlement agreement. An agreement should even specify assets whose separate nature is undisputed, with the other party waiving any rights, title or interest thereto.

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