Author Archives: Jeffrey Zimmerman

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About Jeffrey Zimmerman

Dr. Jeffrey Zimmerman is a licensed psychologist in Connecticut and New York.

EMAIL: drz@jzphd.com

BIO: About Jeffrey

PHONE: 212-799-7921

Giving Your Children the Gift of Peace for the Holidays
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Giving Your Children the Gift of Peace for the Holidays | Jeff Zimmerman

The holidays are stressful for families—and stress does not discriminate. It applies to families of all shapes and sizes including those that are intact, separated, or divorced. For families that have the additional challenge of recent divorce or separation, the first holiday season can be very difficult to navigate—there can, and probably will be, significant differences from what the children, and their parents, are used to (especially if the holidays are not celebrated together).

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CPR for Parents: Communication Skills – Part 1
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CPR for Parents: Communication Skills - Part 1 | Jeff Zimmerman

Divorced parents benefit from modeling their communication pattern after business etiquette—it should be Civil, Polite, and Respectful (CPR). The idea is for each parent to take responsibility for their individual communication styles and focus on implementing CPR communication, regardless of what the other parent is doing (or not doing). When both parents commit to setting the standard for the best communication possible, then generally one parent will be communicating well even if the other slips occasionally.

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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap
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There Is a Person Behind Every Label: Watch Out for the Diagnosis Trap | Jeff Zimmerman

{4 minutes to read} In any context, a mental health diagnosis is a serious, meaningful term that should not be taken lightly, and should only be made by a mental health professional who has personally assessed the client and is trained to diagnose the condition at hand. Although diagnoses are often casually offered colloquially as labels, careful assessment and expertise are truly required in order to make an official diagnosis.

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How to Mitigate the Non-Constructive Results of Confrontation: Tips for Professionals
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How to Mitigate the Non-Constructive Results of Confrontation: Tips for Professionals | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 2 minutes} Confrontation is often interpreted as an attack. In counseling scenarios, regardless of what the professional therapist or mediator is confronting (feelings, ideas, logic, etc.), the client’s response is generally to do one of three things: fight, flee, or freeze.

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Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce
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Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 1:30 minutes} Often in divorce we feel that we’re very depleted—as if our emotional bank accounts are overdrawn.

Self-care in general is a relatively new concept in divorce, and it’s usually one of the last things that people pay attention to. It’s understandable, when you consider all of the changes that occur during the process.

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Holiday Survival Guide
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Holiday Survival Guide | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 2 minutes} The holidays can be wonderful, but also very stressful when you’re coping with divorce. The major fear that parents have going into a shared parenting plan is what the holidays will be like. Whether you are with your children or not, the holidays are often a huge adjustment because there is such a departure from the traditions of the past.

Having said that, it doesn’t mean that your family cannot enjoy the usual traditions, if the other parent is willing. In an effort to be a family first—as opposed to being a divorced family first and a family second—some parents have agreed to celebrate holidays together.

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Broad-Spectrum Parenting
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Broad-Spectrum Parenting | Jeff Zimmerman

{Read in 4 minutes} Most of us are familiar with the concept of “fight or flight”—when attacked, many forms of life will choose either to fight the enemy or to flee from the dangerous situation. This concept can also be applied to co-parenting relationships during which parents often engage in hostile or defensive communication.

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