Author Archives: David Kellem

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About David Kellem

David Kellem is a partner at David Kellem Law Group, P.C. in Hingham, Massachusetts.

EMAIL: dkellem@kellemlawgroup.com

PHONE: 781-804-1303

David’s Divorce Dictionary: Money
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Money | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: M is for Money

Definition: In divorce, the word money means “something of which there is not enough.” Based on my observations, the typical middle class family of four in eastern Massachusetts spends around $135,000 per year, after taxes, on a basic family budget:
  • Mortgage or Rent is about $30,000 per year;
  • Utilities and Heat are about $5,100 per year;

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Kellems
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Kellems | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: K is for Kellems Definition: a mechanical gripping device used to splice the ends of steel cables in elevators so that the harder they pull away from each other, the tighter the bond gets. A Kellems grip is like that “Chinese finger torture toy” most people played with as kids—a sleeve you put between your two index fingers which gets tighter and tighter the harder you try to pull your fingers apart.

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Divorce On Your Mind? Fruit for Thought: Ripe vs. Unripe
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Divorce On Your Mind? Fruit for Thought: Ripe vs. Unripe | David Kellem

{Time to Read: 4 minutes} David’s Divorce Dictionary: R is for Ripeness Definition: As Shakespeare wrote in King Lear: Ripeness is all. In legal parlance, if a case is not “Ripe for Review” a court will decline to decide it—more facts need development or more preliminary procedures need to play out before the dispute is ready for judicial resolution.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Inner Peace
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Inner Peace | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: I is for Inner Peace Definition: Inner Peace is the ability to calm the crisis of divorce by experiencing one’s emotions in broader context A wise elderly gentleman named Dr. Alphonse M. Tatarunis—a recovering alcoholic, high-school-music-department-head-turned-stress-management guru—once explained to me, during a period of deepening doldrums, that I should never expect to experience perpetual happiness.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Hamilton
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Hamilton | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: H is for Hamilton Definition: a smash hit Broadway show that proves fighting for emotional justice is most often a fool’s errand. Hamilton: I’m not throwing away my shot. No! I’m not throwing away my shot! Kellem: Your best shot at a livable divorce outcome is by negotiation and settlement. Hamilton: But I have been insulted and my legacy tarnished! Kellem: You can go to New Jersey to duel with Burr. But someone is going to get hurt badly and    permanently. Probably both of you. Chorus: So Kellem, please tell ‘em – what’s Ham’s best shot in his divorce? Kellem: Mediation, Collaboration, Negotiation, Arbitration! Chorus: Explanation?

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Dave’s Divorce Dictionary: Guilt
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Dave’s Divorce Dictionary: Guilt | David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: G is for Guilt Definition: in no-fault divorce, the courts do not adjudicate legal guilt or innocence. But emotional guilt can play a powerful role in the outcome of a divorce settlement. Guilt can be a judgment that a divorcee imposes on him or herself, or it can be a force of manipulation hoisted by one spouse upon the other. Either way, it should have no place in how one negotiates a settlement—it always works against the interest of the party who feels guilty.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Trump
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Trump|David Kellem

David’s Divorce Dictionary: T is for “Trumpisms” Definition: Problematic personality traits that make some people nearly impossible to settle cases with. It is often said that criminal law attorneys work with bad people acting their best, whereas family law professionals work with good people behaving their worst.  Family law professionals are challenged to implement mediation and negotiation techniques that bring forth the better selves of temporarily insane clients. With some skillful guidance, most of our clients can bring their rational, peace-loving minds to the fore.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Feelings
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Feelings|David Kellem

{4:00 minutes to read} David’s Divorce Dictionary: F is for Feelings Definition:  Feelings are emotional engines that can propel clients down rocky and dangerous dead-end roads. When I told her of my separation after 24 years of marriage, my rabbi cautioned me that “for the next year your emotions are going to be an out-of-body experience.” She was right. In divorce, feelings take on a life of their own.  They rise, they fall, they burst out, they whirl furiously, they paralyze, they compel, and they trespass everywhere.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Emotional Justice
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Definition: The elusive sense of fairness and validation clients rarely achieve in litigated divorces. What is justice? Well, there is legal justicewhich may be defined as the decisions made by courts of law. There is social justiceequality of treatment of others regardless of race, color, creed, gender, sexual orientation, or gender identity. There is blind justicemeaning the application of legal principles and rules without bias. And there is cold justicelegal punishment imposed on a perpetrator without mitigation or sympathy for the human condition.

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What Is a Deposition and Is It Really Necessary?
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What Is a Deposition and Is It Really Necessary? | David Kellem

{4:40 minutes to read} David’s Divorce Dictionary: D is for Deposition   Definition: a deposition is a legal procedure conducted at the office of the opposing attorney where the client is asked a series of questions, under pains and penalties of perjury, for an indefinite time period; and is attended by the client’s attorney, the client’s spouse, and a court stenographer (who transcribes the entire proceeding).

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What Are You Really Consuming at a Cocktail Party?
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What Are You Really Consuming at a Cocktail Party? | David Kellem

{2:46 minutes to read} David’s Divorce Dictionary: C is for Cocktail Party Definition: a cocktail party is the worst place to seek or receive advice about your divorce. Information received in an attorney’s office often serves up a sobering, painful reality. Too many times, I’ve given clients my perspective on the outcome of a legal issue and then listened as they recount contradictory advice they received…at a party…or in a bar. Or from friends over a glass or two of wine. In the recounting is often a subtle, sometimes overt, questioning of my professional experience or competence.

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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Business Decision
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David’s Divorce Dictionary: Business Decision | David Kellem

{4:00 minutes to read} David’s Divorce Dictionary: B is For Business Decision Definition: A settlement agreement based on objective financial realities. For clients in the early stages of a divorce, making sound financial decisions is tough, especially if emotions are high. In the heat of conflict, business decisions can feel cold. But they are essential to building a financially stable future.

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