Sometimes “even” isn’t really fair. I have a lovely client who came to me when her husband left the family home. After much delay, he finally served her with his self-prepared divorce documents. In learning about his personality and history, I believe he factored into his projection his wife’s innate sense of fairness and wanted to use that to his advantage. He has dragged his feet, refused to get a lawyer and represents himself. In reality, he has taken control of the entire process by refusing to play by the rules.