In my last blog post, we talked about the first three steps to divorce: commit to a process; gather information that you need from the outside; and gather important information from the inside. In this blog post, I will discuss the fourth step. All seven steps will be further discussed in a book I’m writing. Step Four: Framing Interests I just came from a meeting where there was a lot of arguing going on. In the middle of all that quarrelling, one party suddenly stopped, turned to the other and asked, “What’s important to you?