The Secret Language of Couples: What Lies Beneath the Words?

The Secret Language of Couples: What Lies Beneath the Words? | Katherine Miller

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Am I correct in understanding that this is what you meant? 

vs. 

Is THAT what you meant?!

Even on the written page it is clear that there is a distinction between these two questions. While the point of both questions is to discern intention, the tone of each question is distinctly different. The former implies curiosity while the latter implies judgment. In mediation, couples frequently utilize a subtle, secret language. To the outsider – the mediator – the literal meaning of the words may appear benign.

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