“What you see is what you get,” your daughter warned. You liked the transparency. Her boyfriend’s tattoos and nose ring? Not so much. At least you knew what you were getting – sort of. What’s really tough is when you think you’re getting Harvard Law and you get a secret drug addiction. Some secrets start with the best intentions. Mom puts on a happy face until her hair falls out from the chemo – and the kids learn about the cancer for the first time. The youngest has to move back in to nurse Mom.